Unmanageable Children

Unmanageable children are made, not born. If you have an unmanageable child, first look at the cause:

  • What has my child experienced?
  • What is the home situation like?
  • Is there a lot of conflict?
  • Are there a lot of tensions?
  • Is there any violence?
  • What is the situation at school?
  • Can she keep up, or is she being bullied a lot?

Powerlessness and Frustrations

When a child is unmanageable, she is full of powerlessness and frustrations, which then manifest in a very unpleasant way. The cause is often a lot of sadness and not being heard, or it is being handled incorrectly. When your child hides these emotions and does not express them properly, she will start doing unpleasant things, causing the situation to get out of control. Therefore, it is crucial to know what is going on in your child. We often think we know, but sometimes we miss the mark. Usually, an unmanageable child gets scolded, which backfires. With love and patience, you achieve more than with punishment. Punishment feels like rejection to the child; it feels as if: they don’t love me, which makes her even more defiant. Often, a hug, a pat on the head, or being enthusiastic when she does something positive has more effect than scolding her again. By doing so, you do not break the pattern. By praising and encouraging the child in positive behavior, you break the negative cycle. Of course, the most crucial step is eliminating the cause of this behavior.

What I Can Do for Your Child

By sensing your child, I can understand the cause. Sometimes it is a cause unknown to the parents. When you know the cause, you can act accordingly and show understanding for your child. For a child, it is very important that you understand her. With patience, understanding, and addressing the problem, you can bring back a completely different child. This is not always an easy or quick path, but it is the only right one!

You may email a photo with the eyes clearly visible, and where she is alone in the picture. Then you can make an appointment for a consultation of your choice.